Funeral Thank-You Card Etiquette: What to Write and Why to Send Them

Wednesday, 5 August 2020

Thank-you cards, also known as acknowledgement cards, don’t have to be sent after a funeral, there is no official rule book to follow. If you are truly  feeling overwhelmed then allow yourself the room to send them late, or even not at all. This being said, funerals are upsetting for everyone involved, so it can be nice to acknowledge and thank those that offered their support during this difficult time. 

 

Why send thank-you cards?

As previously stated, it’s nice to acknowledge and thank people that were there for you during a difficult time. In particular, those that financially supported or helped with the funeral in some way, such as the priest/minister, pallbearers, those who gave speeches, and people who sent you gifts and cards whilst you were grieving.

The people receiving acknowledgement cards will understand the difficulty in writing them, it’s likely many of them are grieving too, and appreciate the effort you’ve gone to in order to ensure they received one. If you really want to send thank-you cards but you’re finding it too stressful, there is nothing wrong with asking a friend or family member to help you. Or, if you don’t want to have to personalise every single card then services exist where you can write a message and have them printed in bulk, meaning you simply have to put the card in an envelope and write the recipient’s address.

 

What to write in a funeral thank-you card

First of all, it’s important to know that nobody will expect an essay thanking them, most people might not expect a card at all. We recommend keeping your message short and simple; As previously mentioned you don’t have to have to write an individual message to each person – take advantage of services that allow you to print many personalised cards at once if you wish to do so.

If you have the time to personalise each card, here are some guidelines on what you can say. Remember though, there is no official etiquette to funeral thank-you cards, so write what feels good to you:

  • Thanking somebody for a specific task they have done, e.g. Thank you for arranging catering at the wake…
  • Thanking somebody for their emotional support, e.g. Thank you for your support during this difficult time…
  • Thanking somebody for attending the funeral, e.g. Thank you for travelling to the funeral, your support was really appreciated…
  • Responding to a condolence card with a thank-you card, e.g. Thank you for your condolences and thoughtful card…

If you are still struggling to find the right words, we have a page of thank-you messages that you are free to browse, take and edit. If you are religious, and so are those receiving the thank-you cards, then you might find it meaningful to put a prayer or verse in the card.

 

We hope this has helped anyone who is struggling with what to write in their thank-you cards, or struggling to figure out if they should send them at all. The main thing to remember is that there are no official rules or guidelines - you’re allowed to send them late, you’re allowed to ask a friend to write them, and you’re allowed to send the same message to everyone.

If you’re interested in ordering thank-you cards with a personalised messaged, you can find a wide selection of them here, including traditional, modern and religious thank-you cards. In addition, we also offer a selection of memorial cards for funerals.